In contrast to many of my peers, I didn’t get any present when I turned 18 and never smoked. Many of my friends secretly smoked since being 14 and took the present anyway. My parents had a wholly different strategy. My mother simply said she would break our legs if she caught us smoking. I didn’t take this threat too seriously but I never smoked anyway because I was too nerdy to pull it off. But lately I’ve been thinking, what if there’s more to smoking than looking cool?
What if smoking is a way of regaining control over your life? Let’s say you’ve just worked 8 hours in some lousy office or service job for a crappy salary, how do you deal with that? How can your ego deal with being screwed every workday from 9 to 5? One way is to construct some fantasies that restore some of your self-worth (see my other post); sure you’re getting screwed, but one day you’ll quit and the office will fall apart because you’re the only one that knows how things work, and they’ll be so sorry for treating you like shit! A different way is to screw yourself harder than they can by smoking a cigarette. The cigarette externalizes, makes tangible, the abstract violence that is done to you by workplace exploitation (among other things) into the little ‘cancer-stick’ that is the cigarette. In this way it could be similar to punching a wall when you’re angry, or even self-mutilation.
But which part of yourself are you punching when you smoke? In my view, each human is split into two parts. One part knows the painful Truth of its existence; the fact that you are basically an insignificant cog in the machine, lacking any meaning or dignity. The other part is precisely the fantasies and the lies we tell ourselves to deal with this horrible truth. Since a direct confrontation with this Truth is impossible, the only way to assert it is through a ritual like smoking. When we smoke we act out, we willingly stage the violence that the world inflicts on us, thereby creating a distance towards it.
Such an ‘acting out’ of our misery is the only way to really confront it, and to do something about it. Still, there is a big gap between confronting and changing, as evidenced by the people who are stuck smoking two packs a day.